3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every Night

I was recently reading a post from a pastor friend of mine. He was talking about 3 questions he and his wife ask each other every night before going to bed. Heather and I have started doing this and then we pray together when we finish. It’s a great ending to the night and I encourage you and your spouse to give it a try.


The 3,2,1…


  1. Name three things you’re thankful for


God has blessed us so much. Take some time as a couple to talk about a few ways how God has blessed you. Psalm 106:1 says, “Praise the Lord! Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!”


  1. Name two ways that you would like your spouse to pray for you


I don’t know about you, but I love having a spouse who prays for me. It is such an encouragement to know that my wife is going to the Father for me. As I go through the next day, I am reminded to pray for her in these ways. Not only that, but it leads to some good discussion.


  1. Name one thing your spouse did that made you feel appreciated


Personally, this helps me be more intentional to show my appreciation for my wife. Life is so busy and the days can easily get away from us. But the fact is that our spouses are a blessing and a treasure to us, so they should feel our appreciation for them.


I hope that you and your spouse will try doing this together. I am sure that it will lead to some healthy conversations and be a time that you really enjoy together. Whether you do this or not, I pray that you take time to invest in your marriage. Even something as simple as praying together every night will have a powerful impact on your relationship. And, remember, your children desperately need parents who are constantly working on their marriage. Not only for your benefit, but also for theirs.


For His Glory,

Pastor Garrett Oppel

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