A Good Word with Dr. Joey Anthony, Episode 3 “Drawing Near to Christmas”

‘Twas the night before Christmas,
And all through the church…

Join us for our Christmas Eve service at 5 pm as we usher in Christmas with family, carols and candles.

This is a brief message from Dr. Joey Anthony, Lead pastor of Mount Pleasant Baptist Church in Colonial Heights, Virginia. We hope it is an encouragement to you in your walk with Christ. Visit us online at MPBCLife.com.

A Good Word with Dr. Joey Anthony, Episode 2 “God Already Knows”

Join Pastor Joey as he brings A Good Word as we reflect on the fact that, in the middle of any uncertainty, God already knows.

This is a brief message from Dr. Joey Anthony, Lead pastor of Mount Pleasant Baptist Church in Colonial Heights, Virginia. We hope it is an encouragement to you in your walk with Christ.

A Good Word with Dr. Joey Anthony

Dating the church vs. Married to the church: The struggle is real for young people


We live in a unique time in the United States, a time where church commitment is falling rapidly generation-by-generation. I was even told by my pastor that he was reading a newspaper article this past week that explained that this is the first time in American history that the predominant affiliation of religion in the United States is “none.” You heard that correctly: none. Generation X and Millennials continue to spiral downward in their faith in Jesus Christ. I believe a big part of this is because we, the Church, are so involved in everything else that church is a mere afterthought. The question I offer to you today is, “Are you married to the church or are you just merely dating?”


It’s our goal at Mount Pleasant to develop young people who, as they go into college or the work place, will have the DNA to be committed to the local church. The idea of dating the church often starts in college and then leads into their marriages and families years later.


Dating the church can be demonstrated in a few different ways. First, a person who dates the church may switch from one church to another, never satisfied or committed to any particular church. These individuals really are not members of any church; they like to move around when something does not go their way.


This is neither healthy nor biblical.


Part of the description we have in Ephesians 5 is of the relationship between husband and wife, giving us the example of the relationship of Christ and the Church. In thinking of our commitment to the local church, think of Ephesians 5:25-27:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.”


When we understand that this letter is written to the local church, while using the Church as a metaphor to explain the relationship of a husband and wife, we better realize why our commitment to one local church is so important.


Individuals who are always moving around from one church to another are treating their relationship with the church as a dating relationship. Why does this often start with college-age students? If a college student goes away for college, they often either use a parachurch organization as their local church or stop attending church altogether. There are some really great campus ministries on college campuses, but they are not a replacement for the local church. Although we want our college students to be involved in these ministries, we believe it more important they find a local church they can be married to while they’re at college. By not being committed to a local church – even while away at college – you are cheating yourself, and cheating this world.


Another way people date the church is by being a member of a church, but not really being committed to that church. That may sound like an oxymoron, but it is ever so true. How can we gauge commitment? Think of the first Sunday it’s cold outside, or when we may have lost an hour of sleep, or maybe when we’re up late watching the Chicago Cubs in the World Series. Then we think we’ll just take a day off from church this Sunday morning. That day off becomes multiple days off throughout the year. A recent report by the Barna Group said the average church member misses twelve Sundays a year. That’s missing once a month, which comes up to about 3 months every year, which is only 75% attendance. I believe God expects better from us.


When we look at Ephesians 5:28-30 we read:

“So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body.”


If you are physically able to be with the body of Christ, but you only choose to be there 75% of the time, does that truly show you’re helping “nourish and cherish” it? Please do not get me wrong, I’m not trying to be a legalistic Pharisee, but rather seeking for us to have a clearer picture of what the relationship should be between Christ and His bride. Men, if we had a bride whose commitment to us was the same commitment we had to the local church, would we be satisfied? If not, let’s lead our families to be married to the church and not just dating the church.


My challenge to everyone is to be married to a local church. It shouldn’t matter if you’re in college, head of a young family, or a senior adult: do not treat your church commitment like a dating relationship. In a dating relationship, you’re not completely in covenant with another individual like you are within a marriage covenant. The relationship between you and the local church should be a covenant. As God’s chosen people, we must remember that we are the bride of Christ (Revelation 12:9-10). The church needs your commitment and you need the commitment of the church. Find a church that loves you and is committed to your growth in godliness. If you’re in college and away from your local church, do not use that as an excuse to date the church and be married to a ministry! Find a church that will show the importance of what it means to be the bride of Christ.


Many of my thoughts on this conversation have been formulated by seeing how much of the New Testament is written to the local church. Joshua Harris does a fantastic job of speaking to this conversation in a book called Stop Dating the Church. Let me leave you with what Joshua Harris says there: “The greatest motivation we could ever find for being passionate committed to the Church is that Jesus is passionately committed to the Church (31).”



May God bless you this week as you are committed to the Lord and His Church.



The preceding are my sermon notes from my May 6, 2012 sermon at Mount Pleasant Baptist Church, entitled Stop Dating The Church. Scripture quotations are taken from the New American Standard Bible (NASB).


Pastor Joe Mayes



Other great resources on this topic are:

Stop Dating the Church by Joshua Harirs

Church Membership by Jonathan Leeman

The Church: The Gospel Made Visible by Mark Dever

What is a Healthy Church Member by Thabiti Anyabwile

I Am A Church Member by Thom Rainer

LifeGroups – Experiencing God through Life Together

by Robbie Riggs, MPBC LifeGroup Director


Life Group Interest Meeting

tree-684764_1920.jpg There will be a full-church Life Group meeting on Wednesday, August 31 at 7 pm.
Whether you’re in a Life Group, want to be in a Life Group, or just want to learn more about what a Life Group is, this is an important meeting to attend.

Childcare will be available

What is a Life Group?

MPBC Life Groups are designed to be small groups out in our communities where discipleship and evangelism occur. We believe that evangelism and discipleship are most effective when they are interwoven into personal relationships. Life Groups provide the environment where these types of relationships are fostered. They are monthly gatherings that meet in individual’s homes. In the context of Life Groups, people come to know God more fully and to experience his presence in their lives through Christian community and fellowship. People are nurtured, equipped, and released to be used by God to accomplish the work he has called them to. These multi-generational groups provide an opportunity for intimacy, mutual sharing and support, practical love and service, spiritual growth, greater devotion to God and others, prayer, and to see real examples of how God is working in our midst. They are led by pastors or trained leaders from the congregation that are given on-going support, such as the canadianmoms group and service to help you achieve a much healthier lifestyle.


What is the purpose of Life Groups?

The primary goal for the Life Group meeting is to experience the presence and power of King Jesus in the lives of believers. We want him to be at work ministering to us and through us, to the end that people are cared for and encouraged to lead lives that are pleasing to God. We desire to see the transformational power of Christ at work in our lives as individuals, and as a community of believers, and through us, in the secular communities of which we are also a part (neighborhoods, workplaces, etc.). We are told in scripture to encourage and build up one another, to serve one another, to rejoice and weep with one another, to correct and instruct one another, to love and accept one another, and to worship God with one another. Life Groups are a wonderful way to fulfill these commands. These groups also serve as a great way to integrate new members and new believers into their new church family. They are a place where spiritual gifts are discovered and utilized for the benefit of the group itself, of the congregation as a whole, and of the world around us. In addition, they serve as a place where we can remind one another of our call to share the gospel and pray for those with whom we are sharing the good news that God has reconciled himself to us through Jesus Christ.


Why PPM? Why Belize? Why Kings Children’s Home?

Just last week, I spent the week serving an orphanage alongside of 16 others (including our missionaries) in Belize. It truly was a life-changing trip. We worked with and through an organization called Praying Pelican Missions (PPM) based out of Minneapolis, MN. Over the years I have been on about 18 different mission trips in many different states, and 6 different countries. I’ve worked with many different mission organizations, most of which have been fantastic. With that said, I’m thankful to the Lord for the leadership and work of PPM. PPM is less than 15 years old and was started in just two communities in the country of Belize. They’re vision is to “further the kingdom of God and our Lord Jesus Christ by providing missions experiences for people with a heart to serve others for His glory.” Click here for more information about PPM and their history. The reason I will continue to use PPM is because they live out to their vision; it’s not just meaningless words. I’m thankful we have interdenominational mission agencies that take the stance that PPM does, because it helps bring the church together. We see this in Romans 12:16 “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.” Another main reason that PPM will continue to get our support is because they have done the best at partnering our church with the ministries and people where we are serving. The people who have coordinated our trips, Andy Bost (who was also one of our missionaries in 2014) and Nicole Seymour helped connect us with great people and those people with great churches. Their organizational and communicational skills were/are superb, but PPM’s ability to partner groups with churches, pastors, missionaries, and organizations oversees is what it’s all about. It’s not just a weeklong trip, but it’s a partnership together for the glory of God.


PPM has helped me fall in love with the country of Belize. I did not know until recently that PPM began their ministry in Belize, but I can see why. Why is Belize a target for missions for me (and others at Mount Pleasant)? First, Belize is a target because of the people. Yes, Belize is highly Roman Catholic and Protestant, but there are still a lot of people in Belize who need the Lord. The people in Belize are welcoming, warm, and somewhat eager to hear the gospel. Secondly, most people think of Belize as a vacation spot where cruises go (Caye Caulker), but a lot of the country is extremely poor. Minimum wage is less than $2/hour, and that’s for those who have jobs. Going through the villages, talking with the impoverished families cannot help but burn in your heart that they must hear the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Thirdly, we have partnered with some of the best people, pastors, and churches in Belize. This year we had the blessing of serving alongside Herman and Marion Blease, missionaries that PPM provided for us. Herman and Marion serve at a Nazarene church in Belize and their heart for the lost, leading in worship, and leading in Student Ministry is simply amazing. All of us feel we have built a lifelong friendship and partnership in the gospel. We know the work is never done in Belize, but we also know with Herman and Marion are continuing the Lord’s work daily. We have also been able to work alongside of Belmopan Baptist Church and Roaring Creek Nazarene Church seeing pastors from both churches who are well connected in their community and love to meet people where they are and point them to Jesus. Between Herman and Marion, Jeniecia (Belize missionary in 2014), and the pastors and churches we have partnered with, Americans can learn a lot from the believers serving in Belize.


Both trips to Belize we have worked with Kings Children’s Home. Why? First we see in James 1:27 the direct command “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the father is this: ‘to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world’.” Working in an orphanage, building relationships with kids who do not have active parents is not easy work. With that said, there is nothing more rewarding than the moment these kids start to open up about their lives, stories, and testimonies that they’ve been through. I remember the last day sitting a table with one of team members (Monica), when a boy probably around 10 years old started opening up about how his mom left him in a hotel because she was a drunk and drug addict. These kids need to know there is hope found not in their circumstances, but rather in our Lord Jesus Christ. Secondly, we choose Kings Children’s Home because of its leadership. Mama Leonie was the founder of Kings and continues to lead it. Sitting down and spending 30 minutes talking with Mama Leonie you can hear her heart for the Lord and every kid in the home. She has a heart of gold. Not only that, her leadership and love towards the kids helps me to understand how I can lead and love my own children better. When Mama speaks, the kids listen. The kids love and respect Mama Leonie, which she has earned. Why Kings Children’s Home? Lastly, because I believe we’re not done yet. The Lord has pressed it on my heart and many (if not all) of the rest our team that our work isn’t done. We desire to continue to build a partnership with Kings Children’s Home and Mama Leonie moving forward. It’s one thing to go and spend a week at the home, but it’s another thing to partner with them moving forward. We don’t want to be a group that comes in and leaves and it was just a weeklong trip. We are unsure what that partnership looks like in the future, but we desire for lasting impacts for the kids in the orphanage along with each team member that participates with us.


There is so much more that could be said about Praying Pelican Missions, the country of Belize, and Kings Children’s Home. A part of my heart will always be there, now it’s time for me to pray how me being here in the states can help impact those back at Kings until I go back.


Kings Children’s Home Facebook Page Link

Trip Journal


God Bless,


Pastor Joe

“No Kids at Church” a poem by Dr. Joey Anthony


13 Then they brought little children to Him, that He might touch them; but the disciples rebuked those who brought them. 14 But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God. 15 Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it.” 16 And He took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them.
Mark 10:13-16 NKJV

No Kids At Church

If there were no kids in the church
What joy it would be
How things would be different
A different church we would see

No more scuffs on the floor
No more marks on the wall
No more silly games
No more worrying about ball

No more noisy hallways
No more wiggling in the pew
No more “tabernacle”
No more doing things that are new

No more cups on the counters
No more food on the floor
No more kids’ activities
No more money for those kids anymore

But with no kids at church
It will not be all that great
For with no kids at church
We will have a terrible fate.

There would be little excitement
Very little life in the pew
There would be no enthusiasm
For the things that we do.

Yes, It would be a quiet church
More like a cemetery instead
Because, the truth about this church
Is that it soon would be dead!

Children are a blessing
A heritage from the Lord
So let us not wish for less children
Let us pray for more!

They need to know about Jesus
We must invest in their lives, too
For we must love all the children
For the Lord has told us what to do

“Forbid them not,” saith the Lord,
“And let them come unto Me.”
So let us be faithful to His call
And show and tell them of the Lord’s mercy

May it always be said of us at the Mount
That we love the Lord Jesus with all our heart,
Our goal is to obey and to please Him,
And for the children, we are striving to do our part.

Dr. Joey Anthony shared his poem in Sunday services on Father’s Day, June 19, 2016 as part of his sermon “The Kingdom Family” in the “King Jesus” sermon series.

Snowed In Devotional

We’re sad we couldn’t worship together today, but Pastor Joey delivered a devotion for us today. Take time and watch, then feel free to share.

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